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December 20, 2012

How divorced couples make holidays special for children

The holidays are billed as a time to rejoice, but for moms and dads who are newly separated or divorced, it may feel like they have special challenges. I spoke by e-mail with some separated and divorced parents who offer their own spin on celebrating happily with family.

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Erin Mantz, 42, is a public relations manager for a health association who lives in Potomac, Md. She and her ex-husband have two boys, ages 7 and 11. Because they believe the first and last night of Hanukkah are the most important, they arrange their schedule so each parent gets the children for one of those nights each year, and then the following year they switch the nights.

Mantz's advice: "Get everything spelled out in the separation agreement, so you always have a master document to refer to. Try to envision what you will want to do on holidays, where your other family is and what's reasonable for travel arrangements and time off work, etc. Plan ahead! But always try to be reasonable, respectful and kind."

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Psychotherapist Ann Turner, 44, lives in Bethesda, Md. She and her husband have been separated for three years, and they have two daughters, ages 13 and 10. The children sleep at their mother's house on Christmas Eve, and their father either sleeps over as a guest or comes over on Christmas morning to eat breakfast and open presents.

Turner's advice: "Try at least initially to keep as much the same as before for the sake of the kids, even if it may not be your preference. Or, if that's not realistic, agree as a couple to split the holiday so each parent gets time with the kids. Or, a third option is to create a new tradition with your kids as a single parent and let the kids in on defining the tradition. Let them feel like they have some sense of control over family time during a period where there's little they can control about their parents' relationship."

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